Caring for another human being....what's happened to it?

When did we forget that we are all human beings and we all live on the same earth. Over the last week all the talk has been about relationships, but when we get right down to it, aren't we all humans on the same planet? Why do we find it necessary to find fault in everything someone else says or does even if it doesn't affect us. ( and yes I'm just as guilty sometimes) Do we all say something stupid and sometimes offensive? Sure we do,but most of the time they are off the cuff remarks and we apologize for them. Most people and I'm guilty of it, don't think before we say anything, especially in the heat of the moment, but most of the time we realize what we've said and apologize for it. I know I've touched on this subject on my previous blog, but it's still bothering me that we are still talking about language almost two weeks after the initial comments and we all know what I'm talking about and it kind of hits on my title.
One of the things that make this a great country that we live in is our freedom, granted with any kind of freedom we have to have our own personal censorship, being humans we all have feelings no matter what we tell others around us. Once again I'm going to preface this all by saying I'm not excusing what was said, however as it's been said time and time again since, this should open a new "dialogue" in our country...how many times have we heard that comment made and nothing changes. To be totally honest I don't care what someone thinks or says about me, does it hurt when something bad is said sure but you know what I get over it and move on, I don't become "devastated" by it, I'm not scared for life, and neither are most people. My belief is comments like that are what scar or devastate someone, not the actually words or deed, unless the deed is physical,they usually leave marks..., Well I guess I've exhausted this for now, hope I haven't offended anyone if i have get over it!!!!!! (just kidding)

Language

Well I guess it was just a matter of time before i got to this. Over the last week this has been a huge issues so i guess i want to add my two cents. Let me prefise this by first saying I mean no insult to anyone. Anyone that knows me knows how I mean what I'm saying and it's not to belittle anyone. Language in our country over the past few years has really become an issue, especially about who can and can't say what. Now everyone says that our constitution gives us the freedom of speech, which it does, but doesn't common moral decent sense dictate what we SHOULD say? It seems that basically a lack of respect for each other has made it seem Okay to say or use certain words. I mean let's be honest growing up we were always told "Stick and Stones..." (you all know the rest), or maybe the bible says it the best 'turn the other cheek,( or was that Kenny Rogers), either way I think you know what i mean. Why have we as a society think that because we have the right to do/say something it's okay. I know I might not be making sense here i think most people understand what I'm saying. Now we all know what i am referring to, and I am in no way condoning what was said, but I do believe that the whole issue was blown way out of proportions. I really don't understand though why we continue to have a double standard in this country and I am not only referring to this issue, but there are many other double standards, i believe that in the present today society everyone should be equal, no mater if race, sex, or believes, but I also believe with that comes the good with the bad. Last time i checked we're all human beings and should be treated as such.

Why Not Children

Well I've decided to join the millions of others out ther in cyberspace and start my own BLOG!!!. I hear it's a great way to relive tension and put down you thoughts, so I figured why not. I always had a dream of being a writer when I was younger, real life intervend so I use this instead. I guess I'll usually write about what I think is going on in the world and other randomnise( is that even a word) that is in my brain.
I guess I should give some background about first. I am a married thirtysomething, no children, work for a major commuinications company, too embarassed to mention it's name here. Huge baseball, ice hockey and Nascar fan. Love music, really doean't matter what as long as it's good, by my display name you might be able to guess, for you others it's Dave Matthews band (DMB).
I am asked on a daily basis why we don't have any children, well there's a few reason, first of all to be totally honest my wife and I are very selfish, I know that sounds kind of cruel, mean, and as a close friend would say RUDE, however we are both only children, and being only children it really has affect you as you get older. Now, I am in no way blaming our parents, both of us came from rather hard times in the beginning, both of our parents struggled in the beginning to raise us, don't get me wrong neither of us were left without but it was a struggle, it became better as we grew older. I believe we both look back and are somewhat afriad that would be us, it's just something we don't want to do. Next is the fact that neither of us want that responsibility, I give great credit to those out there that do it, we have a close friend that has four children and she is an incredible mother, I just don't think I could handle it. I need to stop for a mintue here and explain, it's not that we don't like children, we've both helped in someways raise cousins we are both close to, so it's not a thing were we don't like them. It's nice to have fun with them, but it's nice to return them to there parents after a while, No this is not an offer to watch them...you know who you are!!!!
Finally, my wife has some health issues, we've never been told that having children would be a danger, but it's just not a chance I'm willing to take, my wife is world and my life, I could never imagine going on without her in it. I would never in a million years hold that againest a child if we were to ever have one and something happen to her, so that's not an issue either.
We've alwasy said that if it did happen and we got pregnant we would take it as a sign, but to be totally honest, I don't ever see it happening.